Individual IFS therapy sessions

At the heart of Internal Family Systems therapy is the belief that there is a calm, compassionate core ‘Self’ within each of us that cannot be damaged.

We also have many ‘parts’ that help us through life and protect us. Sometimes these parts can become extreme because of our experiences in the world and it can then be harder to access the calm core Self. These parts can also make us behave in ways that cause conflict, distress or unhappiness in ourselves or those around us.

The IFS therapist’s job is to help the client disentangle themselves from their parts and access their core Self. The Self can then connect with each part and heal it. This allows the parts to let go of their extreme or destructive roles and enter into a harmonious collaboration led by the Self.

IFS therapy explicitly recognizes the spiritual nature of the Self, allowing the model to be helpful in spiritual development as well as psychological healing.

Find an IFS therapist

To find an IFS therapist online or in your area, search the IFS UK directory.

What you can expect from an IFS session

Your IFS therapist works with you in a collaborative way to guide you in the therapy process and help you access – and remain – in your core Self.

The therapist will help you explore what’s happening for you and, when appropriate, support you as you focus inside and become mindful and curious about your experiences.

Your therapist is there to serve as a compassionate and skilled companion, helping you gain understanding of your internal world and how it affects your life. You are in control of this process. The foundations of IFS therapy include a deep respect for the wisdom of your own internal system and the knowledge that it will unfold in its own time.

What happens in your first session?

IFS therapist Conor McMillen talks about what your first IFS session might be like:

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To find an IFS therapist online or in your area, search the IFS UK directory.

Clients’ words

“IFS sessions have offered me an opportunity to unburden and heal some of my youngest parts that suffered trauma in my early life.”

“I had not heard of IFS therapy until I began having sessions ..., but I have found it completely life-changing. I think the most important thing for me has been its emphasis on recognising, accepting and working with all the various parts of myself, rather than ignoring, fighting or condemning them.

“This approach has enabled me to begin to build a positive relationship with myself for the first time, as it has helped me to gain a much clearer understanding of how and why different parts of me have developed in response to various life situations and events.”

Find an IFS therapist

To find an IFS therapist online or in your area, search the IFS UK directory.